So it's all over except for the shouting, but what if that's not the way that you want it to be? Many people, after they have gotten out of a relationship, find that all they want to do is to get back in, but what happens after a break up? Take a look at a few tips below to get you started when you are looking to woo your ex back into your arms!
1. Act for the right reasons
Realizing that you have made a mistake and want to get back together because you love them is a great reason to get back in touch and figure out if there's anything left. Getting back together so that you can dump them is not! If you are looking to reunite with your ex, make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons. Don't waste your time with vengeance or other pettiness.
2. Figure out what they've been doing
While you shouldn't turn into a stalker, ask your mutual friends about what your ex has been doing since you split up. If you hear that they already have a new flame, it's a sign that your chances might not be great, but if you hear that they've been mopey or depressed, this can be a good sign. Making sure that you know how they're doing can help you decide how to present the case for getting back together with them.
3. Take care of yourself
You might want to play up how miserable you have been without them, but don't. All that will do is ensure that you have someone who is getting back together with you for all the wrong reasons. You don't have to look like a million bucks, but don't make it look as if you've been starving, not showering, and living as a shut in. Make sure that you are still someone that they will want to get back together with!
4. Find a neutral meeting place
Invite them out somewhere away from places that could be considered charged. Stay away from the places where you live, especially if you fought a lot there, or had a nasty break up scene there. Take them out to a park or a restaurant instead and ask about making new memories. State your case clearly and then, when you are done talking, make sure that they get a chance to say everything that they have been thinking.
5. Take no for an answer
This seems counterintuitive, but it's not. If they have a definite no, let them say it and accept it. You'll find that if they say no, they might not be ready for a reconciliation right now, but they might be sometime soon. You'll find that if you let them go gracefully enough that there might be a way to get them back later, but if you make a scene, then you definitely won't!
Here's an excellent ebook that will definitely help: The Magic of Making Up.
More relationship advice at http://www.superior-health.info/Relationships/
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